I am the lady behind Detangled Lives.
I am a graying mom, with two out of my nest and one remaining. My husband and I currently have low-paying jobs, but it works for us. Our home loan is mostly paid off and we live frugally. “Second hand” is my middle name and I love it. It has served my family well.
On the other hand I have spent the last decade in decline as I focused solely on taking care of my family. I spend practically no money on my looks, and it often shows. My skin screams for moisturizer and TLC. [ “Moisturize me and get a face lift!!!”, my skin screaming. LoL]
I dye my own gray hair using henna. The chemical dyes were too harsh. I relax my hair only 2-3 times per year (from a box kit). **Prior to the Cancer Scandal, so I’m working on a new plan.**
So many of my self-care, dreams and most loved activities were on pause as I took care of dad, husband and children, and any other family that needed me.
Now that the house is quieter, my life is no longer paused. My two oldest children have their own lives (that thankfully still pop into mine often enough). My father adjusted to professional assisted living (only with sleepovers with us and with many family visits included) before his passing last year. My husband enjoys his own work and hobbies. My youngest child is my kindred spirit and we adventure together. I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE FIRE and I am ready to “level up” and I want you to level up alongside me. I want to encourage you in and through and out of the fire.
I am a fighter and so are you. I believe that there are so many other people like us out there. Normal struggling people who have a fighter buried inside and need another kindred friend to “cheer them on and up”. Normal people have normal needs like housework routines and beauty routines, clutter control, exercising and writing their dream book (or whatever your life dream).
EVERYONE is welcome. Everyone who needs help and support with these life tangles can come and find encouragement to level up and live detangled lives. There is a verse in the Bible that states, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. I actually believe two things; 1) I can complete anything God places in my hands to do. and 2) I do personally get my strength from Christ Jesus and I need it! I recommend Him, with all of my heart, if you are seeking. To each their own, but personally Jesus is my all in all. His ways are ABSOLUTELY better than mine. I believe God has given us free will and we choose our own paths. I just know that God offers salvation and love as a choice.
I am obviously far from perfect, but in my heart, I want to always work at being humble and grounded. However, I know that human nature will pull me the opposing way. Please keep me in your prayers and/or hearts as I continually remind myself and other kindred online friends to lovingly do the following 3 things:
- We avoid being critical. We cheer each other on and up. We are all in the same boat in some way or another. If not, you know someone who is.
- We do not stay down. We press on towards a higher target.
- We sincerely rejoice in the victories of other kindred online friends as well as our own. Great minds think alike and we are surrounded by great minds.
I may express these 3 in different ways in different posts but the heart is the same. If you don’t want to lovingly do those there things, you just might need another online group. I do not have things perfectly under control. I want to become like the old commercial about the president and member of the Hair Club for Men (search online for the old commercial). Basically I want to be a combination of Martha Stewart and the Hair Club founder. I want towards the highest standards but remain human. The Hair Club President admitted that he was human and struggled for years with baldness until he founded his club. I admit I struggle with life’s tangles, but I press towards the mark.
Peace and success.
Bible Verse: Philippians Chapter 3, verses 12-14
12 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
**this verse talks about becoming more like the example that Jesus set for Christians”; that is my ultimate goal, to share God’s love and live like God has instructed me to live***
Bible Verse: Philippians Chapter 4, verses 11-13
11 Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. 12 I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. 13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.